Transcripts from Berman and Berman January 30th, 2003 01:27:10 Dr. Laura Berman OC Hello. 0127:11 Alex Michel OC Hello. 01:27:13 Dr. Jennifer Berman OC Hi. another kiss, thank you. 01:27:15 Dr. Laura Berman OC Good thing he kissed us. 01:27:17 Alex Michel OC 01:27:19 Dr. Laura Berman OC/VO So from reality show to matchmaker. How did that happen? 01:27:22 Alex Michel OC/VO That's right. Well, I guess… GRAPHICS ON SCREEN Alex Michel "The Bachelor" ... what, what what I'm doing now, I'm a spokesperson for Match.com, which is the premier on-line dating site, and I guess what it has in common with The Bachelor is two things. One, it's untraditional. According to many. And two, it kind of takes the chance out of dating. So, in my case I had 25 women who were selected to be compatible with me, and I got to really think about who would be best for me. 01:27:46 Dr. Laura Berman VO Right. 01:27:47 Alex Michel OC And on Match.com it's the same thing, only there's millions of people on there. 01:27:50 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC And they don't necessarily all live in the same house. 01:27:53 Alex Michel OC Right. Exactly. They may not know each other. 01:27:55 Dr. Laura Berman VO Yeah, right, that that probably comes in handy. 01:27:57 Alex Michel OC So people can go on and have several email flirtations going at once. 01:28:00 Dr. Laura Berman OC Do you, did you have, when you were on the show, any romantic revelations in terms of how you zhandled that situation? 01:28:08 Alex Michel OC/VO Well, I guess I I did have a couple. One is, just what you were alluding to. Women talk. And it's best not to date sisters, or roommates. 01:28:17 Dr. Laura Berman VO Now, that's good advice. 01:28:19 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO/OC That is good advice. But on that show, The Bachelor, I mean, it was like staged romance I mean, the quintessential romantic dates… 01:28:26 Alex Michel VO Yeah. 01:28:26 Dr. Jennifer Berman OC …you were able to go on. 01:28:27 Alex Michel VO Yeah. 0128:28 Dr. Jennifer Berman OC Are you going to use any of that in your later life? 01:29:29 Alex Michel VO/OC Yeah, and I think there, there is something to all the trappings of romance. Flowers and candles and, and thought. I think women really love it when the man takes the time to plan something creative, as opposed to just showing up and saying, "Let's go to the sports bar." 01:28:45 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO Right. 01:28:45 Dr. Laura Berman VO And it doesn't have to be that… 01:28:45 Alex Michel OC Knowing. 01:28:46 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC …complicated or expensive. 01:28:48 Alex Michel VO/OC Yeah, I mean sometimes free things are, are actually more unique, because, you know, you're constantly going out to dinner. But if he, you know, takes you on a picnic, or to some concert in the park… 01:28:56 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO Right. And listening, too….. 01:28:57 Alex Michel OC It's thoughtful and free. 01:28:59 Dr. Laura Berman VO Yeah. 01:28:59 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO/OC …that's very romantic. 01:28:59 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC And, I guess you don't give roses out that much more any more, do you? 01:29:02 Alex Michel VO No. 01:29:04 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO Has that lost its appeal for you? 01:29:05 Alex Michel OC Yeah, well, yeah. 01:29:08 Dr. Laura Berman VO I imagine it would. 01:29:08 Alex Michel OC/VO I think one other lesson I learned was that I, you, you were talking about romance before, and who's more romantic, men or women, and I think men really want to be romantic, but a lot of times we need a roadmap. We're just clumsy, and we don't know what to do. And women often think, "If I have to tell them it's not going to be romantic." 01:29:25 Dr. Laura Berman VO Right. 01:29:26 Alex Michel OC But men are dying to be told. 01:29:28 Dr. Laura Berman OC/VO What advice would you give men in terms of a roadmap, from what you've learned? 01:29:32 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO Especially the ones in the audience. 01:29:34 Dr. Laura Berman VO Who need tips. They need tips. 01:29:36 Alex Michel OC Well, ask your girlfriends what they want you to do and beg them to tell you even if they say that it's not romantic if they have to tell you. 01:29:42 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO/OC That you're doing everything right, yeah. That is a thing, you're right to say, that we do say that. That if I have to tell you, it's not romantic. 01:29:49 Dr. Laura Berman OC Right. 01:29:49 Dr. Jennifer Berman OC You need to come up with it on its own… 01:29:51 Dr. Laura Berman OC And that drives me crazy. 01:29:51 Dr. Jennifer Berman OC …you need to be spontaneous. 01:29:52 Alex Michel VO/OC Yeah, but then, I mean, it's hard for guys to read people's minds. 01:29:55 Dr. Laura Berman VO No, it's hard for any of us. 01:29:57 Alex Michel OC Yeah 01:29:57 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC But especially for men to read women's minds. My gosh. 01:29:59 Alex Michel OC Yeah. 01:29:59 Dr. Laura Berman OC …we're too complicated. 01:30:00 Alex Michel VO We barely understand you at all… 01:30:01 Dr. Laura Berman OC Yeah. 01:30:01 Alex Michel VO …even if you tell us what to do. 01:30:02 Dr. Laura Berman OC Yeah. It's true. 01:30:04 Dr. Jennifer Berman VO/OC But in terms of the Internet, do you really think you can find true love on the Internet? 01:30:08 Alex Michel VO/OC I think so. I mean, I think it really, it takes the chance out of it. So, instead of just meeting someone in a, in a singles bar, or you got set up by a friend of a friend, you can go in, you can type in, on Match.com they have a keyword search. So you say tennis or Scorpios only, or whatever, and it will tell you who, who has the same interests as you do. 01:30:25 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC How many keywords can you look, because I, I, when I was dating, I had a very long list of criteria. 01:30:30 Alex Michel VO Must be able to read my mind. 01:30:31 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC Yeah, I know, ten 20 different things. How many things… 01:30:34 Alex Michel VO Yeah. 01:30:35 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC …can you put down when you're searching? 01:30:36 Alex Michel VO You can do all kinds of stuff. I know… 01:30:37 Dr. Laura Berman VO Oh, you can? 01:30:37 Alex Michel OC …by geography, and you see their pictures. And so, there's lots of things. 01:30:42 Dr. Laura Berman VO/OC And, you want to learn more information… GRAPHICS ON SCREEN For More information visit www.discovery.com/health …on the, on Internet dating or Alex' company, you'll find it on our website, and when we come back, how to bring romance into your life. It can happen. So, stay with us.